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How to Be Confident In Everything You Do

Confidence is a vital ingredient in successfully beginning, pursuing and completing difficult undertakings. Lack of confidence is the primary reason for lack of implementation of good ideas. If we delve into the etymology of the English word "confidence," we find that the prefix, "con," is Latin meaning "with" or "together." The root, "fido," translates into "trust," "believe," "confide in." Whenever you see an English word that begins with "con" or "com" it very often indicates that the original meaning of the word involved a concept that was communally formed: the word was intended to convey that other people were inextricably interwoven in what happens to the individual.
We often refer to "self-confidence." However, according to this analysis, this term is actually a redundancy. The word confidence is sufficient to express one's positive attitude toward personal competence, capability and self-sufficiency. The word confidence literally means to trust or believe together with others in an interdependent community. An individual will find it difficult to be confident without the positive input and support from others.
The existence of confidence in any member of a community indicates that that community has an established culture of mutual trust and respect among its citizens. This does not necessarily hold true for all cultures and communities that a person happens to be a part of. For instance, you could be totally confident of yourself within your home environment but totally lacking in confidence within any number of other organizations and associations of which you are a member. This has as much to do with the kinds of input from others in these respective environments as it does with one's membership qualifications of family, ability, preparation, experience or knowledge, for example.
We weave our personal realities mainly from the multiple inputs from others. A boy was struggling to move a large rock. His father walked by and asked, "Son, are you using all your strength to move that rock?" His son replied, "Yes, Dad." His father retorted, "Son, you are not using all your strength because you have not yet asked me to help you." Our strength and personal realities are formed and sustained by the contributions from others. We are not nearly so strong or confident without them. When others are encouraging and supportive, confidence builds and you are more likely to stretch as well as strengthen your talents and abilities toward successful and innovative applications and outcomes.
When You Know You Know
One of the ways a community demonstrates its support for its individual members is to provide solid practical information regarding what it takes to succeed within the community and beyond. The knowledge that is passed down and around becomes the foundation for an individual's confidence in making decisions and behaving in ways that are conducive for success.
After this knowledge is disseminated, the supportive community will then provide practical opportunities for the individual to apply what was learned. These experiences create an internal sense of what works and what doesn't work. When you know you know how to succeed, your confidence in performing the necessary tasks that lead to successful achievement soars. Your confidence helps you assess risks realistically and to bounce back from failure quickly.
Becoming Confident in All You Do
How do you become confident in all the situations in your life? It's simple, really. You give to others what you want them to give to you. Life echoes. It ripples. What you give out you get back in waves.
Although confidence is socially constructed, the individual has a large part to play in creating a community environment in which confidence is engendered and nurtured. Mahatma Gandhi wisely observed, "You must be the change you wish to see in the world." I would paraphrase this slightly to make it more immediate to one's personal environment and also say, "you must be the change you wish to see in others." If you wish to be around people who smile more, then smile more! If you want to work in an environment that is characterized by teamwork and mutual respect, then demonstrate to others how these characteristics can be embodied and pragmatically expressed on a consistent basis.
I realize that to adopt this approach is to invite the possibility of failure, perhaps even ridicule. Life is full of risks. It certainly is a risk, albeit rather innocuous in nature, to smile at someone who clearly is in no mood to smile. They might scowl back! Then how would you feel? But it's not about how you feel. It's about how you act. If you want to be around people who have more reasons to smile then you should take the risk that the smile you offer will not be returned at that very moment. You might feel awkward and uncomfortable. Big deal! By smiling, even when you don't feel like it, you're giving permission for others to do the same, if not now then later. You're setting the stage for their subsequent behavior toward you and others not just their immediate reaction to your current behavior. Helen Keller, who had more reasons than anybody else in history to be grumpy and sad, nonetheless proclaimed, "Be happy. Talk happiness. Happiness calls out responsive gladness in others."
Changing Others By Changing Yourself
You've no doubt heard that you can only change yourself and not others. This is true if you try to change someone else's behavior without first trying to change your own. It has been my experience that you can, in fact, alter others' ways of acting by altering your own first, just as Gandhi noted. William James, pragmatist philosopher & psychologist (1842 - 1910) said, "the greatest discovery of my generation is that human beings can alter their lives by altering their attitudes of mind." I would go further and say that human beings can alter other people's lives by altering their own personal attitudes of mind, as I've described above. When you change your attitude of mind, that is, the way you habitually think (an attitude is nothing more than a habit of thought), then you alter the way you behave and this, in turn, alters the ways others behave toward you.
There are two ways to change yourself that will also result in changes in others. When you change something about yourself, especially your behavior, others are naturally challenged to change their responses to the "new you."
By changing yourself you are also altering the social environment from which you receive your cues and clues about how to be confident. In effect, you are setting up a "virtuous cycle" (as opposed to a "vicious cycle") that creates the conditions for perpetual mutual benefit for both the individual and the community.
Here are the two ways to change yourself:
o Think your way into a new way of acting
o Act your way into a new way of thinking
It's true that habitual behavior stems from habitual thought and that the quality of your actions flow from the quality of your thinking. This is the "garbage in - garbage out," "excellence in - excellence out" notion in behavioral psychology. Thinking your way into a new way of acting is effective. However, it often takes a long time because you must think the new thought repetitively in order for it to erase and replace the old way of thinking and for this new way to finally change your behavior. Often there is not enough time to allow for this way of changing to work itself out.
More immediate change can be achieved by simply acting the way you want others to behave. It's a curious fact of life that by doing something, even if you don't feel like doing it, you make it easier to do again. Smiling elicits a desire, no matter how small or subconscious, to have reason to continue smiling. Treating co-workers as colleagues of equal worth even if they aren't of equal status creates in their minds a reason to want to collaborate with you in the future. This sort of "risky behavior" engenders trust and tames the tentativeness toward teamwork because it results in the experience of mutual respect that fosters the desire to repeat the behavior. The action gives rise to the thinking that guides and supports future actions. This is the "virtuous cycle" out of which confidence and achievement flow.
"Be Sure You're Right, Then Go Ahead"
General Robert E. Lee, widely respected for his military and personal leadership, said, "You have only always to do what is right. It will become easier by practice, and you enjoy in the midst of your trials the pleasure of an approving conscience." As a young child, I listened to the song of the story of Davy Crockett countless times while sitting on the floor of my bedroom in front of my little record player. I recall the spoken words that immediately preceded the beginning of the song. "Be sure you're right, then go ahead." This was Crockett's philosophy of life. It was his personal motto. It shaped his behavior and tuned his integrity throughout his life.
In fact, doing "only always" what you're sure is right is the only true source of confidence. When you possess "the pleasure of an approving conscience" in all that you do, you feed your soul with the necessary nutrient that keeps it strong, resolute and successful, even in failure. We esteem General Lee today because of his strength of confidence, character and wisdom even though he failed to win a great war that he believed was right to fight.
Doing right means that you do things you don't always feel like doing. It means that you do things you don't have to do. But it's precisely these things that determine what you'll be able to do more easily and with greater impact in the future. Doing right creates the inspiration to continue to do right and the confidence that you are doing right. The great early twentieth century composer, Igor Stravinsky, said, "Just as appetite comes by eating, so work brings inspiration, if inspiration is not discernible at the beginning."
Self-Made Communities Count, Too
We can now say with confidence that community, within which confidence is born, is not merely something into which one is born and therefore has no control over. It can be more than that. A community can be formed in the mind of an individual by means of reading and meditating. We learn how to be confident from the mental and spiritual communities we form throughout our lives as well as the physical communities of family, neighborhood, city, school, church, synagogue, mosque, associations and job. And we have control over these inner communities in that we can continually modify our sources of wisdom and understanding of what is right and worthy of our efforts.
Getting It Right From the Start
Confidence is telling the truth in advance of experiencing it. You can lead with confidence when you start something even if you've never done it before because your confidence is a predictor of the successful completion of the endeavor. Confidence is a term to describe belief in one's ability to succeed in life. William James comes again to aid our understanding: "our belief at the beginning of a doubtful undertaking is the one thing that insures the successful outcome of our venture." And again, "be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create the fact."
In the September 22, 2006 issue of the USA Today newspaper, an article on the "soul of a champion" quotes Patrick Cohn, sports psychologist and President of Peak Performance Sports, on the need for confidence in order to attain championship levels of performance. "Self-confidence is probably the number one mental skill that championship athletes possess. Simply put, it is their belief in their ability to perform. They see themselves as winners." Confidence is seeing yourself as successfully accomplishing something you haven't yet done, bringing that future positive self-image into the present and then using it as the impetus and inspiration to succeed at doing it.
So Then, It Works Both Ways
Confidence arises from and is fed by both the past and the future. It begins in the communities that the individual participates in, both visible and invisible. It is nurtured by history and visualization, by experience and expectation, by fact and dream, by knowledge and hope, by achievement and aspiration.
Acquiring and growing confidence is the responsibility of each individual. You are in charge of how confident you feel and how confidently you act by choosing what to focus on in your past and in your future. If you're sure you're right in your focus, you'll be sure to bring about what you're thinking about. And the realization of this confidence will contribute to the community the confidence others need to do what they're sure is right. And thus the virtuous cycle is formed that results in increasingly greater achievements and benefits for humanity and the world.
Ken Wallace, M. Div., CSL has been in the organizational development field since 1973. He is a seasoned consultant, speaker and executive coach with extensive business experience in multiple industries who provides practical organizational direction and support for business leaders. A professional member of the National Speakers Association since 1989, he is also a member of the International Federation for Professional Speaking and holds the Certified Seminar Leader (CSL) professional designation awarded by the American Seminar Leaders Association.
Ken is one of only eight certified Business Systems Coaches worldwide for General Motors.
His topics include ethics, leadership, change, communication & his unique Optimal Process Design® program.

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5 reasons to go to bed an hour earlier

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We all know that you have quite a few many benefits of having ample shuteye, understanding that this adverse influences connected with snooze starvation may be severe. With regards to transforming off the TELEVISION or perhaps apple ipad tablet, setting aside each of our operate, and tucking in from 10 g. l., though, many of us possess a bad time basically so that it is happen.

Nevertheless when the morning alarm clock occasion is usually finite, changing the nighttime regime to head to bed before can certainly advantage your general health insurance and well-being through bettering snooze top quality and being sure you have this encouraged eight to seven several hours you may need. It could actually have ramifications on your cardiovascular health and fitness: The the year just gone Japan examine located of which male individuals that regularly went along to bed previous to night time had more healthy coronary arterial blood vessels when compared with those who went along to become right after night time, as outlined by an ABC Announcement record. Even though the actual factors aren't yet exactly understood, snooze specialist Michael Breus, Ph. N., tells this Huffington Write-up an earlier-to-bed timetable may be more healthy.

"We truly do know of which people who are nighttime owls and change individuals carry out have more health care and thought health issues, but many of us have no idea when this can be merely this genetic facial foundation connected with nighttime owls or perhaps of which those who stay upwards past due possess these kinds of problems, " Breus says. "One purpose of which works for you is usually beginning risers have more natural light understanding that facilitates for Nutritional N, and resetting this biological clock. ".

Five Strategies for Getting a Relaxing and Restful Sleep

The consequences of sleep loss include not only higher stress and reduced performance at work, but even an increased chance of stroke risk and other deadly ailments. By focusing on ways to ensure a good night's sleep, you can make your life longer and happier. Here are five tips for how to sleep better.
1. Bedtime rituals
By following a routine every night, you can associate sleep with certain activities. This can help prompt your brain to prepare for its nightly slumber. The sacred objects in this ritual include your bed, which should be reserved exclusively for sleep and love-making. This way, getting into bed will signal to your psyche that it's time for rest (or romance). Other ideas for bedtime customs include:
Yoga stretches
Reading a book or listening to an audio book (not reading a backlit tablet, as explained below)
A hot bath
2. Upgrade your bedroom
Without a good quality bed, you may find yourself waking up with backpain. You can forestall sleep-destroying aches and pains by investing in a firm mattress and the right kind of pillow.
Many people find comfort by using a memory-foam pillow, like the enVy anti-aging and wellness pillow. This is designed to maintain proper alignment in your spine by tilting the head gently upwards with its signature V-shaped design.
3. Melatonin regulation
Melatonin is the chemical your brain uses to regulate its sleep cycle, or circadian rhythm. Exposure to light is the natural trigger for this hormone, but your habits may disrupt its cycle. Here are some of the ways to keep your melatonin regular:
Make sure your room is completely dark. This means drawing heavy curtains against street lamps or perhaps shading your eyes with a sleep mask.
Avoid television, computers, or other devices with backlit screens. This includes smart phones and iPads or other backlit tablets.
Use soft lights
4. Consistent hours
A regular bedtime is not just for kids. The more regularly your pattern of sleeping and rising, the more refreshing your hours of rest will feel. If you missed out on some sleep the previous night, compensate by napping sometime during the day, instead of throwing off your schedule by sleeping in.
Most adults need an average of eight hours of sleep nightly, but considerable variation exists. You may need an hour more downtime than average. Pay close attention to how sleepy you feel after a longer or shorter sleep.
5. Anxiety reduction
One of the biggest sources of sleep loss for adults is worry. And then end of a busy day, many people find themselves making a mental inventory of their anxieties - bills to pay, relationship problems, and responsibilities at work all clambour for the attention of the mind.
It's essential to manage your stress. One of the most important keys to a good sleep and happy life is learning to recognize what you can and cannot control. Other ways to reduce stress include exercising and eating well, especially by limiting your caffeine intake. This stimulant may continue to affect your brain more than ten hours after consumption.

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Antidepressants Intensify Anxiety and Depersonalization

Feelings of anxiety and depersonalization do not require medication because neither is an illness. They are learned behaviors, simply resolved when approached correctly. Through the combination of behavior modification and diet/nutrition one is able to reconcile symptoms and return to normal living.
Antidepressant medications create amplified reactions for anyone sensitive to outside stimuli and many individuals fall into this category. The distinct personality of one who struggles with anxiety and depersonalization lends itself to these over-reactions.
Interestingly enough, the return to antidepressant medications, even for those who fared well upon first time usage, often creates a stronger adverse reaction, resulting in a noticeable setback in the recovery process.
It's important to recognize the personality profile of the individual who adversely reacts to antidepressant medications:
Personality Profile
- Highly intelligent
- Reactive to outside stimuli: medications, temperature changes, alcohol, nicotine, caffeine, stimulants, sugar.
- Analytical: Deep thinker, reworks situations in his/her mind.
- Over-Achiever: Hard worker, long invested hours, intense concentration.
- Perfectionist: Detail oriented, compulsive, precision in work.
- Non-Confrontational: Avoidance of uncomfortable situations, repression of emotions, frustration.
The combination of this personality and antidepressants often results in these reactions:
- Nausea
- Lightheaded
- Anxiety
- Panic
- Anxiety Attacks
- Loss of Appetite
- Insomnia
- Depersonalization
- Derealization
This is often intensified for those returning to antidepressant use after being med-free for a prolonged time frame. This is even more surprising when their first round of antidepressants might have been symptom free.
Bottom line, the combination of the above personality type and antidepressant medications is not recommended. The individual is far too reactive to outside stimuli and adverse reactions will override any benefits these medications could possibly provide.
The correct approach to permanent recovery from anxiety and depersonalization is supplied by the combination of behavior modification and diet/nutrition. This natural approach allows a permanent correction from debilitating brain fog, anxiety reactions and strong feelings of depersonalization and derealization. This approach does not require a long or drawn out process. The mind refreshes rapidly and anxiety symptoms abate. The diet/nutrition plan ensures a return to balanced blood sugar levels and stabilized serotonin levels in the brain.
Antidepressants only serve to hold serotonin in the brain but if one is not eating correctly, there is little serotonin to hold on to, defeating the main purpose. If, on the other hand, one eats correctly, serotonin is naturally manufactured on a daily basis, eliminating the need for medication. Life returns to normal without the risk of side effects, withdrawal symptoms or large financial investments required due to a strong dependency on pharmaceuticals.

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Can Yoga Enhance Your Mental Performance

We all know that exercise can improve us physically - lowering our cholesterol, decreasing our predisposition to heart disease, and enhancing our immune system - but, what we might not be aware of is the mind, not to be left out, can also be improved through exercise. The reasons for this are biological and emotional, benefiting the exerciser on several levels and leaving us to discover, when it comes down to it, that the mental benefits of exercise are as important to our overall wellbeing as the physical ones.
Rather than mindlessly putting on the running shoes, or climbing onto the treadmill to discharge energy and get the blood flowing, participating in yoga can give you both exercise for the brain and the heart. While providing physical benefits, it also powers your brain's ability to focus and to recognize unconscious habits that don't support your structure in gravity or your full potential as an emotional spiritual being.
Yoga is often described as a type of exercise, although much more than an exercise routine, when practiced consciously, it greatly aids our mental capacity. While mental health can be difficult to quantify - there is no blood test that reveals emotional health - people who practice yoga regularly can not help but adopt better moods, possess more energy, and have an outlook submerged in positivity. In a nutshell, yoga makes you feel good, and good energy always results in better mental clarity and performance. When you are filled with positive, life affirming emotions, your mind reacts in a way that makes thinking and achievement virtually limitless.
From a biological standpoint, the ways yoga aids the brain can be explained in medical journal fashion. To begin, yoga is a science and an art that coordinates the movement of the body with the breath, improves oxygenation of the blood, allowing better blood flow to the brain, ultimately producing clearer, more concise thoughts. Yoga can also boost dopamine and other neurotransmitters, boosting both moods and the retention of memories.
An essential part of yoga, breathing, is also a cornerstone of the mental aid exercise provides. While breathing does facilitate circulation - allowing vital minerals and nutrients to get where they need to go and letting all organs of the body, including the brain, function more adequately - breathing also helps the brain in a more direct manner. For example, a practice that is sometimes used in yoga is the act of concentrated breathing through one nostril at a time. In EEG studies - studies that monitor a person's brain pattern - this practice shows that breathing through one nostril can increase activity on the opposite side of the brain (i.e., breathing through the left nostril will increase activity on the right side of the brain). This ultimately results in better communication between the brain's two sides, creating better mental function and enhancing a person's ability to learn.
Mindfulness, a foundational component of yoga helps students to embrace, and focus on, the present moment, can also assist mental function. This is because those who practice mindfulness train their brain to work in a certain way. By relaxing, and severing the rope that keeps you clinging to stresses and worries, yoga calms the mind. A calm mind is better at retaining information, remembering information, and concentration skills. A calm mind focuses on attention, and possesses an advanced ability to perceive sensory information. Because of this, some people suggest that yoga, a vehicle 
of calmness, gives you the amazing ability to open up completely to the present moment and just be more "on" - whether it is in making a decision quickly, being emotionally responsive, or seeing another solution to a problem with ease.

There have also been studies that concluded certain yoga positions can alter a person's position on things; specific poses relay specific moods. Researchers at the University of California, for example, performed a study that found certain yoga poses were more mood-altering that others. One finding concluded that bending over backwards was one of the best ways to improve your frame of mind, giving those in bad moods something to fall back on.
While the spotlight tends to shine on the physical benefits of exercise, the mental ones are quickly coming out of the shadows and into their own. Yoga, because it exercises your physical body, is a mindful practice that helps you to embody your thoughts, emotions and your spirit. Providing the physical benefits of other exercise, yoga is helping the mental benefits of fitness to get discovered and becoming increasingly well known for giving those who practice it a piece of open mind.
TWISTED is a medical yoga studio at the Center for Osteopathic Medicine in Boulder, Colorado. Twisted integrates osteopathic medicine, hatha yoga and mindfulness practices to teach optimal balance between physical, mental, and emotional health. It aims to educate and help people to live a healthy life from the inside out. Rehabilitation programs offer a comprehensive treatment regime for the whole being, empowering each person one breath at a time to stimulate the body's natural healing potential.

Jennifer Jordan is senior editor of Specializing in articles that not only teach yoga techniques, but also teach techniques on fulfillment and enrichment, she aims to educate students proudly enrolled in the school of life.

How to Feel More Gratitude

When life is hectic, you may know it is important to feel gratitude, but you're so busy you just forget. And how can you feel more gratitude if you feel exhausted and overwhelmed? Well, you are alive, you are thinking about gratitude, and that's a start.
Awaken your awareness. When we are anxious or under stress, it is easy for our minds to get so wrapped up in our to-do list that we don't notice anything else going on around us. If you've ever started driving somewhere, made a few turns automatically, then realized that you are not headed where you wanted to go, then you know how easy it is to let auto-pilot take over our lives.
Becoming more aware takes a little conscious effort, but the rewards are great. You start to see beauty where you may not have noticed it before. You hear sounds, you feel the breeze, and you can realize how many things there are around you to be grateful for.
Practice being present. Sort of a stage two of awareness, being present means focusing on each thing you are doing, looking people in the eye when you talk, and really listening to what they say.
When you are truly present with people, it is easier to realize how important they are to you, and how much communication with them means. You learn how to feel more gratitude for those around you, and appreciate how fleeting our time together can be.
Soak up the good times. When you experience moments that make you happy, don't be too quick to run off to the next thing on your agenda. Stop for a bit and give all your senses to the moment. Take in all the goodness you feel, and try and feel gratitude welling up inside you until it fills you and overflows. Then your feelings of gratitude can linger a little while longer, and you can approach the rest of your day with fresh eyes.
Express gratitude and praise directly. Feeling gratitude is a wonderful way to start the day, but your gratitude will grow faster the more you express it outwardly to people who deserve your thanks.
On a recent trip, I visited a restaurant where the food was extraordinarily good. When the waitress came by for the routine check that things were fine, I asked her to specifically tell the chef how superb my entrée was. Not a huge gesture, but a sincere one. Later she came back and told me how much the chef appreciated what I had said, "It really meant a lot."
How often do we miss opportunities to show gratitude that would mean a lot to someone? When we do our own gratitude grows. I left the restaurant grateful not just for an excellent meal, but for the experience of people connecting, of a little more harmony in my life.
Reflect on your day with a grateful heart. I've never been good at the habit of journaling before bed, but writing down what we feel grateful for each day is helpful to a lot of people. Even without a journal anyone can review the day and give thanks for all the blessings we have received. If there were unhappy or stressful moments, be thankful that you made it through them, and are a stronger person because of what you have overcome.
The more gratitude we express, the more thankful we feel. In a world of vicious cycles, isn't it good to know that positive thoughts and feelings grow the more we feed them. When you feel grateful for each day, the more good things you will see, and the more your gratitude will grow. It doesn't matter where you start. Just find something to be grateful for and you will feel more gratitude every day.
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What Is the Colour of Your Success?

I find that before adopting any particular tactic or method in your life, it's worthwhile to take some time to really hone in and explore what success means to you (and only you). In other words, what is the colour, taste, smell and feel of success for you? For some it may be developing the ability to express a talent; splashing paint on a canvas or finding your voice in writing, for others it could mean leaving a 9 to 5 job and earn a lucrative living at a business you enjoy, for yet others, it may mean the getting to spend time with loved ones or having the freedom of lifestyle to travel.
Whatever your idea of success may be or whatever your plans and dreams are in life, have you considered that life may also have some plans for you? Yes, that's right, besides all the efforts that you may be out there to bring your dreams into reality, there may be a life or story that is even bigger than you've even dared to imagine that wishes to be lived or created through you! As the mystic poet Rumi says: "what you are seeking is seeking you".
I want to invite you into this archetypal realm for a little bit so that you allow yourself to explore this greater story, sometimes referred to as the "hero's story" (Joseph Campbell) I believe we are all called, at some level to follow our own hero or heroine's journey into bigger version of ourselves. I'm sure that you may have experienced this at times I your life when you've overcome an important obstacle or have had to rise to an occasion and face a set of circumstances that really challenged you. During those moments, you probably drew upon strengths you didn't even know you had within you.
In those moments, you stepped out of what I refer to as "the small story" into the "larger Story" of who you are and you probably had a taste of what success really looks and feels like to you in terms of a larger purpose you are here to serve. It's not the challenges themselves, but what we learn in overcoming them that brings us closer to our greatest capacities and our potential for success. Those times of struggle and obstacles tend to be the best training ground for what we need to learn and if we can seize those opportunities many doors tend to open as a result!
I wonder what smaller stories of success have you been perhaps stuck in or limited that you feel ready to shed and what life moments can you remember when you accessed the larger story that you may feel wants to be created within you?
Wishing you a radiant day!

Maintaining bipolar relationships

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Happen to be play an important position in a person’s lifestyle. It is vital regarding humans to own good friends as it is quite beneficial to their general health in addition to well-being. Buddies are definitely essential. They are a great expansion involving yourself, bipolar relationships similar to family members. They are generally there to promote us all, really like us all, take us all, in addition to help us all. They are one between life’s almost all particular in addition to cherished treats.

For anyone who day-to-day lives together with bipolar condition, bipolar relationships it could be rather complicated to help them to retain and also have the good results within there happen to be in addition to interactions. Some together with bipolar condition have difficulties relative to their colleagues. Because of small self-esteem along with other elements, they will often immediately experience “different” or maybe like an outsider which in turn makes it difficult to do any friendship. Additionally, bipolar relationships there are days and nights or maybe situations in which people who reside using this situation do not desire to keep company with anyone at all. They could be suffering from rounds involving major depression in addition to want time and energy to by themselves until that they experience effectively again. Whenever bipolar folks are despondent, they frequently thrust other people away in manners that will do not usually seem to seem sensible – particularly when they are forcing away the folks that they worry about essentially the most. They will often actually state or maybe complete painful stuffs that that they in the future experience dreadful regarding. It's not necessarily usually identified the reason those that have bipolar thrust the methods that they really like away, bipolar relationships nonetheless it practically seems as though it’s a kind of protection or maybe defense.

Additionally, inside situations involving lose hope, the idea is not easy for an individual together with bipolar to keep involved or maybe experience nearly spending time with good friends. That is one of the most popular techniques a few together with bipolar have was able to lose happen to be with time. Extremely common to help them to telephone off ideas or maybe reschedule caused by the direction they are generally experiencing on a certain time. They will often not just contact anyone only a few days and nights or maybe several weeks according to their health and mentality. Trying to keep touching good friends can be hard actually for many who do not reside with an emotional condition even though. Associations normally can be arduous to regulate sometimes. It’s never ever super easy no matter who you happen to be.

For any close friend involving a person who day-to-day lives together with bipolar:

Bipolar relationships: you should attempt to comprehend, give them room if required, bipolar relationships in addition to do not acquire exactly what they will often state or maybe complete personally community . can be extremely complicated. Whenever they cancel ideas, be aware that they might need to have a time to recuperate knowing that the idea is not something particular. It may be challenging to recognize in addition to practice this particular person is truly certainly not by themselves throughout situations similar to these. Bipolar relationships normally it takes a lot of tolerance, understanding, and also a powerful, devoted particular person becoming a good friend in their eyes during the difficult occasions.

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Memory Loss and Its Causes

Generally, people accept the fact that their memory will fail them especially when they grow old. Most often, people associate growing old with mental illnesses like Alzheimer's disease, dementia and other mental problems. However, people need to understand the underlying causes of such problems because they can prevent it from happening. There are some things that they can do while they are still young in order for them to preserve their memory improvements and other brain functions at its best until they grow old.
As people approach their old age, their arteries and their veins get clogged because of plaque deposits. This contributes to the narrowing of the passage of blood which could restrict the blood flow going to the heart and to the brain as well. When there is not enough blood circulating in these important areas of the body, people may expect problems. The brain needs as much nutrients and oxygen that is delivered through the blood. Failure to provide sufficient supply to the brain may cause lesser efficiency rate when it comes to memory functions. People may not even notice that they are experiencing some form of very mild strokes which can cause damage to their brain cells.
The presence of free radicals in the body may also cause damages to the brain cells. When the body is not able to protect itself from this, there will be health as well as mental problems that can occur. People who are also deficient with the needed minerals and vitamins like B6 and B12 may also suffer from memory loss. In order for people to combat these problems that may affect their brain functions, they need to include antioxidant as well as vitamin B rich foods into their diet. They may consult with professional dieticians as to the amount that they need in order to keep their bodies and their brains working with the highest efficiency rate.
Aside from the right diet, people also need to do some regular exercises and to get sufficient amount of sleep. Those who are able to keep their bodies healthy may also have better cognitive functioning. They may also make some modifications in their lifestyles for them to enhance their memory and to keep it intact until they grow old. Although there are supplements available for those who would like to enhance their memory, they need to ask their doctors how to improve memory. People can prevent the occurrence of memory loss and they can also look forward to growing old without necessarily losing their memory.

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Genuine Happiness Comes From Completely Eliminating Depression

Living as a human in this world is not an easy thing to do, some times the world can feel like its falling down on you and you have no place to go. As you look around you see people living happy and fascinating lives which makes you wonder why your life is so depressing.
Some people you may know have certain things happen in their life's that can be depressing but you see that person after some days they are looking happy and can manage to laugh and enjoy themselves. The reason why they don't seem to be depressed about life is because they've learnt that genuine happiness comes from within.
If you also want to be genuinely happy from within you should learn to love yourself and understand the fact that you are also a human being and you are not perfect.

7 Steps to Stop the Worry

One thing I've come to realize is that entrepreneurs worry a lot. Worrying about making your business a success, worrying about how you're going to pay the bills, and worrying about what other people think of you.
I promise you - this can stop. I know because I used to be a chronic worrier and now it's almost non-existent! This might seem unbelievable, but it's true.
Here's what I've come to realize about worry. That it does not help anyone, including yourself. It does not change the outcome. If anything, it makes things worse because when we worry we just bring more to worry about to ourselves.
Here are 5 ways that you can stop the worry head-on, and start living a life of peace, joy and happiness - which also leads to faster results!
Step 1: Realize that you weren't born with knowing how to worry. You were a tiny, perfect little being filled with love. Worrying was taught to you, likely by an influential person in your world, such as a parent or caregiver. So when you are in worry mode, and you hear all of those thoughts running through your mind, ask yourself whose voice is that? Immediately follow it with; "it's not mine". This is simple, but powerful. Tell yourself this over and over when worry peaks its ugly head. It helped me immensely!
Step 2: Think about what happens when you start to worry. Do you shift into this mode during the day or does it start when you wake-up? How does the world look and feel when you worry? Contrast this to when you feel great. Do you shift into this state during the day or does it start when you wake-up? How does the world look and feel when you feel good? Notice the differences.
Step 3: Realize that sometimes worry will move you into action. It might actually help you move away from something you no longer want to something you really do want. It may start that initial process of you doing something different. See if there is a time where it actually moved you into action. Also know there is a positive intention behind worry. What is the positive purpose behind worrying? What is it trying to protect you from or even move you away from as stated above? Gaining awareness around this will help you to move through it when it does occur.
Step 4: Know that not everyone is going to like you. That's just the way it is. Ask yourself if you can help more people by hiding and worrying what others think of you, or by being your true self and shining your light? Not everyone needs or will appreciate your gifts, and that's okay. Think about the people who really do need your help. They are worth stepping into the light.
Step 5: Realize how powerful you are. I once learned that one human being has enough energy to light up an entire city. Pretty amazing right? We're just not utilizing our full potential and energy in a productive way. We're using it, but to worry!
Step 6: Start creating results. You are powerful. You are worthy. Use that fantastic ability you have inside yourself to create the results you want. Part of this process involves faith. Faith in the universe having your back. Go after what you want and let go of controlling how it will come in. Be open to receiving it. Believe in this process until you start seeing the results you want. Once you more and more results, it will be a lot harder to slip back into worry because you will have so much evidence of it working. Trust me, it works.
Step 7: Get lots of sleep! Worry creeps in the most when we're tired. Set boundaries around your sleep. Turn the computer off at a certain time, and allow yourself to relax and go to sleep at a decent time. You know how much sleep you need in order to thrive. Everyone is different.
Chris Atley shows female entrepreneurs how to go from struggle to wealth in 30-minutes a day! Chris inspires thousands of entrepreneurs internationally through her writing, teaching and coaching programs. Her mission is to help as many people she can create fabulous businesses and freedom-filled lives! Chris is a certified coach, NLP-Practitioner and has a BA in Psychology. She walks the talk, and draws on her own experience to help others build successful businesses. Download Chris's Entrepreneurial Manifesto Kit to help you move forward today at:

How to Get Over Your Fear of Driving Alone

When you're learning to drive, there's always someone else in the car that you can turn to and who will give you helpful advice. But as soon as you've passed your test, you're allowed to drive alone. Most people are happy with that idea but for some people - either soon after they've passed their test or later in life due to some other event - the very idea of driving unaccompanied fills them with dread.
If you're one of those affected, check out these ideas to help reduce your fear.
Turn on the radio
Some shows - especially talk radio - are designed as though they're almost a two way conversation between the host and the listener.
Doing something as simple as tuning the radio to a talk show could make the difference and could help fool your brain into thinking there's someone else in the car.
Or, if you prefer, you could always find a channel with a good selection of music or put in a CD or play something via your phone or MP3 player.
Those are all equally good alternatives and will help take your mind off the fact that you're the only person in the vehicle.
Try short journeys first
Unless it's unavoidable, it's best to start with shorter journeys as the first ones where you drive solo.
You should be able to convince yourself that the journey will only take a few minutes so it will be over with almost as soon as it's started.
Gradually build up to longer journeys as your confidence increases.
If you're really nervous, start by just driving to the end of the road and back - maybe with someone from your family watching from a distance. The thought that someone is there, watching, may be all that you need to help you get over your fear of driving alone.
Choose your roads carefully
You probably know the different routes you can take for your journey.
Pick roads that you've driven along before so that you're in familiar territory.
Ideally, pick roads that aren't too quiet (otherwise your mind will turn to those scary movies you've seen) but equally aren't too busy. Some of the problem with driving alone is that you're running all sorts of thought patterns that contribute to your fear.
Choosing roads that are "just right" in terms of traffic will help a lot.
Choosing the time of day - if you have that luxury - will help even more as you can decide when the best traffic times will be.
And if your route includes traffic lights, that's probably for the better. They help control the bigger junctions and mean that you're not turning into big swathes of traffic.
Practice relaxing
Relaxation is a big part of overcoming any fear or phobia.
Your fear has helped make you tense and probably nervous.
Learning to relax more will help overcome that side of things.
Anything that takes your fancy is a good idea - hypnosis, meditation, yoga, deep breathing. They all work to help you remember how to relax.
Although it should go without saying that most (if not all) of those techniques shouldn't be used whilst you're in control of a vehicle!
If you'd like to know more, check out this page about overcoming your fear of driving and find out how you can use hypnosis to stop being afraid of driving.

Get Organized and Change Your Life!

Most of us live "quiet lives of desperation" when it comes to not being organized. But, when you think about it, if you're not organized, there are so many things--people included--that may go by the wayside and that can certainly alter a person's lifestyle and negatively affect those around you.
If you have a cluttered desk, you will probably have a cluttered mind. If you have a kitchen that is disorganized, odds are the food you make may not taste that great or it may not be done on time.
There are so many other areas where organization is needed such as laundry, clothes, making lists, making and keeping a list of "things to do" or keeping a schedule for work and play events.
Keep in mind, there are certain steps you can take that will lead you to a more organized life such as taking care of things when they happen such as taking care of incoming mail when you receive it; instead of putting it down on your living room table and forgetting about it. Another example is if you see something that is not where it should be like a book, magazine, clothes and other, put it where it belongs. This takes care of clutter right when it happens.
Create time to take care of tasks that don't need to be done right away such as phone calls, emails or paying bills. For example, create a time slot in the morning or evening to take care of these concerns. Creating a certain time slot will ensure that these tasks will be done.
Then, go to each room in your house, condo or apartment and get rid of any items you no longer need. Set aside 15-30 minutes for each room and then do another room the same day or take care of the next room the following day or next week. Don't pressure yourself to do your entire home in a month or even in a year. Just do what you can and before you know it, you will have a much more organized home.
Create a menu for your family for a week or two and then stay with that menu. To do this effectively, make up a list of food you will need to fulfill the menu and add to the list as the days go buy. Then, do your grocery shopping just once a week and buy everything you will need; and that should also include snacks.
Then, buy a daily planner and in that planner write down daily tasks, appointments and things that need to be done. A planner can be helpful, keep you on track and will keep your life organized and less stressful.
To conclude, getting organized can indeed change your life and the best part is that it is not hard to do. So, get rid of clutter, buy a daily planner, take care of certain tasks in a timely manner and you will enjoy an organized and happy life!


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